Communication

Everyone carries some baggage

It is only human to hold onto things of our past.

For some that baggage is light and simple, a fatigue due to an ex who we may never think about again

For others the baggage is life's tragedy and its impact will never allow them to mover forward

And then for others yet again they are somewhere in between these two

With baggage one thing seems common.

The way that we hear people's speech

This thing is not solely referenced to past romantic relationships

But truly to all relationships

Ever had a parent constantly nag you to speak up?

They look at you and say "Well....?" expecting the answer

Picture it, you're at home with your special someone

You're having a good time, laughing, being playful and all those things

Your special someone looks at you and says "Well....?" in that same tone.

Your mind goes into spasms, your stomach churns and your wonderful little moment is gone

Words and tones become associated to people in relationships

They have both positive and negative impacts

The thing to remember is that not everyone uses language in the same way.

Although it is the same phrase that sends chills down your spine it is not the same tone.

And unless it is coming from the person who you associate it too, then it likely does not have any connection to the same meaning

Suck it up, remember that each person is unique and so is each communication

Jump out of your Pavlovian response and be yourself, 

Respond to this new person in the way they make you feel.